Black people are tired and in pain. We are expected to see the trauma inflicted upon Black bodies, to watch the unjustified killings of our loved ones and still move through the world as though nothing is wrong, to go to work and be productive, to smile at strangers, to continue to make white people comfortable in our presence as though we are a danger to them instead of the other way around. It's not right. It has to change.
White people who say you aren't like the white people caught on camera using their privilege to threaten, maim, and kill people with black and brown skin, talk is not enough. WE ARE BEING KILLED right in front of you.
You aren't separate from the white people who do this every day. We're all socialized to see Black people as a threat. I say we because so many Black people have internalized the racism we live under. How can we not? It's everywhere. But we also experience the REAL threat of white people to our existence.
Just like you see Black people as a potential threat unless you know them, we see you as a real threat. Even people who call us friends don't stand beside us and get loud in this fight. They treat racism as if it's a black thing. It's not. it's a white thing, but you don't own it. Your social status allows you to project your issues onto the victims of your wrong thinking and pretend like you're not part of the problem.
But you can change it. Change your thinking by learning how racism was created. Racism isn't natural. A few white men created racism to build a nation and hundreds of years later, were living under the system as if it's something that just happened and we can't change it. That's a lie.
But the only way it changes is for white people to admit that racism is false. That stereotypes and prejudices based on race are false. That the system is designed to keep white people in power by giving them unearned advantages. That white supremacy only exists because of the barriers that were artificially created to keep non-white people and poor people at a disadvantage.
Don't believe it? Then you need to take my course Practical Steps to Fighting Racism so you can learn the truth they don't teach in public schools. So you can face your mental defenses and move past them to deal with reality. So you can learn what actions you can take to change your community and possibly save a life.
Not ready to speak out because you're afraid? Of what? Your friends calling you a n*gger lover? Not being invited to the block party? How does that stack up to next to the possibility of dying for using a potentially counterfeit dollar that you didn't know was counterfeit? Or for dying from police gunfire in your bed like Breonna Taylor?
White people, it's time to stand up and buck the system. If you can't tell your racist family and friends that they're wrong, you can't call yourself an ally and your sympathy is less than useless. Black people are tired of comforting white people who are upset by Black murders. You have the power to change this. Do something.
If you're ready to learn how, sign up for my online intensive on Saturday, June 13, 1-5pm. My motto is no blame, no shame, no guilt. We are there to do the work and I integrate self care so you increase your capacity to learn. But I don't baby my students. Black people have been dealing with this shit from birth. You've been sheltered. Wake up.