We are so stressed these days that a lot of us are forgetting that we have control over how we live. We’re being swept up in fear and anxiety, letting the chaos of the outside world determine how we feel inside and our behavior. Even as we follow the laws and recommendations for the pandemic, we are choosing how we live through this time.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing some insights on selfcare – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and other ways. There are many aspects, and I’ll do my best to stick to my bite-sized format. First a definition, and this is just mine:
Selfcare is consistently doing what’s necessary so that we live with the highest level of well-being as possible and we are as effective we can be. It’s making sure we are at the very least meeting our basic needs, so we can be resilient in the face of challenges. That means being:
Taking a vacation once a year or submerging in a hot bath once a week are ways to reset after the buildup of stress. That’s like putting out a fire without removing the cause of the fire. The stress will continue to smolder and flare up unless you remove the source. Daily maintenance is how we remove the source.
Too many of us treat selfcare like a luxury instead of seeing it for the priority it is. Unfortunately, that just makes it harder for us to choose how we live our lives. Daily rituals to reduce stress buildup make us more resilient, increasing our capacity to deal with change and chaos from outside. It's like brushing your teeth every day to prevent plaque buildup. You know that brushing for 10 or 20 minutes once a week is no replacement for brushing at least 3 minutes every day. A bath or massage once a week is nice, but spending a little time each day to be present and listen to your body will reduce stress buildup and the damage it does to your physical and mental health.
Every part of selfcare works together. For example, working out every once in a while won’t help as much if you eat mostly junk food. And meditation will be difficult if you don’t get enough sleep. (You’ll probably take an unintended nap.) When you can pay down your debt, you'll likely decrease your fear and worry. See? All parts of your Self are related and influence each other.
Making the decision to unplug and tune in to your Self, to pay attention to your body and mind, and to give your Self what it needs to feel cared for and protected is a major step to let go of the daily chaos surrounding each of us every day. Nobody's selfcare routine will look exactly alike because our needs are different. Some of us love scents; others crave touch. For some of us being still is delicious, and for others stillness feels like punishment, but we can do meditation through movement. The point is to figure out what we can do to make sure that how we live is giving us life!
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be looking at different aspects of selfcare, making suggestions for things to try (even encouraging you to make your own Selfcare Kit!), and asking for your suggestions as well. Patreon supporters will get access to videos and downloads with extra info to support my posts. Want to become a supporter? Click the button in the sidebar and join for as little as $2 a month!Sending you #FierceLove!